Marriage therapist Shamseddin Giwa has responded to comments made by Esther Nnamani, who advised women not to love their husbands but to view them simply as partners.
Esther argued that seeing a husband as a partner rather than a romantic ideal could help women manage their expectations and cope more easily with disappointment, misconduct, or betrayal.
Reacting to her remarks, Giwa disagreed, describing the perspective as unhealthy and misguided. He maintained that love remains an essential part of marriage and insisted that a woman should love her husband.
"Dear Esther, I don’t know what created this mindset for you but it is wrong and not healthy," he wrote.
"A woman is supposed to marry and love her husband (as a man is supposed to love his wife).
"Are there cases where this doesn’t happen. Yes. Does that mean it should be the standard? Absolutely not.
"The same energy used to push this narrative can be used in a constructive way showing women how to get better results from their marriages beginning with making better choices of men.
"I’m sorry if it is a series of bad experiences that have led you here and hope, maybe someday, with a more open and positive mindset, you find a man that treats you good and shows you what appreciated love means. I wish you the best.
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