“Stay with my sister or marry single mother” – Nigerian man in UK cries out as visa deadline nears

As his visa expires, a Nigerian man living in the United Kingdom is reportedly torn between saving for his future and marrying a UK citizen.

Relationship expert @jon_d_doee shared the story on X, the platform that was formerly Twitter.

According to the relationship expert, the man moved to the UK as a student in 2024 and has been living with his sister since then, which has allowed him to keep his living expenses low.

'He saves around £1,500 per month.'

The relationship expert revealed that the man now works full-time and saves approximately £1,500 per month.

“He now works full time and saves about £1,500 a month,” he wrote.

However, the man's future in the UK is reportedly uncertain, as he has until January 2028 to either find a sponsored job or leave the country.

According to the post, the 39-year-old man recently met a UK citizen from Nigeria. Africans & Diaspora

The woman is reportedly a single mother with one child and has suggested that he move in with her.

 

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“She has suggested he moves in with her, and she often talks about marriage and having another child,” 

However, when it came to their finances, the two reportedly had different expectations.

According to the relationship expert, the woman stated unequivocally that she would not agree to split their expenses equally.

“When they sat down to talk money, she was clear: she will not split costs 50/50. She expects him to carry most of the financial load, and she said that is the only way she can respect him,” he wrote.

The financial implications were reportedly revealed after they calculated their anticipated expenses.

“Once they ran the numbers, his monthly savings would fall from £1,500 to about £300,” he stated.

The man allegedly has two children in Nigeria from a previous marriage that ended due to infidelity.

The relationship expert stated that the man is now more concerned with maintaining his financial independence than with marrying.

“He is 39. He already has two children in Nigeria from a previous marriage that ended because of infidelity,” he wrote.