(Thread on how dating multiple women kills time, money, and focus)
Let’s be very honest today.
Some of you are not broke because you lack ideas.
You’re broke because you spend all your time and money trying to impress women you won’t marry.
1. Every Saturday, you're on a new talking stage — how will your bank account breathe?
Dating is not free.
Even “chilling” costs money.
You buy data to chat her day and night
You send airtime when she “can’t sleep”
You take her out just to prove you’re not like other guys
You pay for Bolt, lunch, and sometimes her skincare routine
Repeat this every weekend = you’re a walking ATM with no savings.
2. Chasing multiple girls is a full-time job — but it doesn’t pay salary.
Let’s calculate the emotional and mental cost:
Constant texting and replying
Keeping up with lies
Remembering who said what
Solving imaginary “baby why are you cold today” issues
Having multiple sweet names for women you don’t love
By the time you finish pleasing all your “potentials,” there’s no energy left for business or purpose.
Your destiny is tired.
3. Some of you were doing well — until women entered the picture.
You had peace.
You had goals.
You were consistent.
Then one fine girl said “hi” and now your brain has relocated to her DM.
Suddenly:
You stop reading
You stop saving
You stop planning
You start spending anyhow
You become emotionally distracted
From potential CEO to certified simp — in 2 months.
4. Love is beautiful. But too much of it with too many people is financially dangerous.
See eh, there’s a time to build wealth…
And there’s a time to enjoy it with the right woman.
But many of you want to enjoy woman before you even make money.
That’s how you end up:
Broke
Heartbroken
And hustling from heartbreak instead of focus
You can’t keep starting romantic situations and expect business success.
One must suffer — and sadly, it’s usually your destiny.
5. Some of you are dating like it’s a competition — but your landlord is still threatening you.
You’ve entered 4 relationships in 6 months.
Every girl is “your peace” — but your life is in pieces.
You don’t know where your career is going
You’ve paused your hustle just to “focus on her”
You’re borrowing money to buy birthday gifts
You’re using rent money to plan beach dates
You’re emotionally invested, but financially bankrupt
My guy, this is not love — it’s self-sabotage in disguise.
6. You’ll NEVER reach your full financial potential if your time, attention, and energy is divided by too many women.
Let’s be clear:
Women are not your problem.
Your lack of discipline is.
You can’t be a serious man and still:
Jump on every soft voice on WhatsApp
Be a “good morning” evangelist to 4 women daily
Spend your nights on late calls instead of brainstorming your next move
Always be in one “talking stage” or another with no purpose
Talking stage has turned into a poverty stage. Wake up.
7. Focused men don't date for vibes — they date for vision.
A woman is supposed to help you multiply — not distract you and drain you.
If you’re not ready for commitment, stop testing everyone’s daughter.
If you’re not financially stable, stop starting relationships like giveaways.
If you haven’t built anything, stop chasing everyone.
Build first. Love later.
FINAL WORD
Your life is not a romcom.
It’s a destiny journey.
You don’t need 5 women to feel confident.
You need 1 purpose that pays you daily.
If you don’t kill this hunger for attention, this attention will kill your future.
Discipline = money.
Focus = success.
Scattering your energy = poverty.
Pick your side.
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This generation of men must wake up.
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